I read a quote recently that says, “When you stop learning, you stop growing.” A struggle I have that I recently realized is that I’m always striving for “perfection”. To not make mistakes. To be the perfect person whether that be at work, in potential relationships, in friendships, etc. I’m terrified of anyone seeing faults in me. I’m terrified that if I make a mistake that makes me a worse person. But, really, aren’t mistakes how we learn? AND, let’s be serious, no one is ever going to be perfect.
I feel like I take criticism really well, but sometimes if it comes from specific people, I take it personally, and see it as a “defect” instead of an area where I can grow. I see it as “maybe this person won’t love me anymore, or like me anymore” instead of that’s something I need to work on. I try not to criticize others because I can always spin a criticism into a positive. Or somehow I see it as an opportunity to help someone else. I don’t see it as a fault, or a reason to not love someone. In fact, when I learn people’s faults, it usually makes me love them even more. So, why can’t I turn around and think the same thing about myself?
Why can’t I accept that mistakes don’t equal “you suck”. Mistakes don’t mean you can’t move on or move past them. Mistakes don’t mean you need a “fresh start” or a “clean slate”. Mistakes are an opportunity to learn and to grow. The problem is when we make the same mistakes over and over again. If we never learn from them, then we aren’t growing.
I’m constantly striving to grow. I love to reflect and to be introspective. I want to be a better person. Every day I try to be better. When I look back at my life a year ago, 3yrs ago, 5yrs ago, 10yrs ago. I have grown. I have learned. And it is something that we must accept that we will continue to make mistakes. We will continue to learn. And we will continue to grow. That is part of the life journey. We will continue to be challenged. To have to ask for forgiveness. And to practice forgiving others. We will learn how to let go and move on, over and over again. We will learn how to love, over and over again. So, I ask you, just like I ask of myself, to let go of “perfection” and simply strive to be the best version of yourself every day. To accept that you will make mistakes, and that when you do, to acknowledge them, learn from them, and move forward.
So, what was it that I learned this week? To stick to my guns. Probably will learn this one 100 more times in life in different scenarios, but to truly trust and own what I want and what I deserve and to not settle for anything less than that. That it’s ok to step away from something that isn’t what you want or deserve. To trust actions not words.
What did you learn this week in life?